Start a Fire Conversation
Learn how to launch a Fire with Dads with Wisdom's help.
From First Spark to Father-Owned Fire
1. Your First Two Gatherings
DWW facilitates the first two Fires, the two Sparks that establish connection, expectations, and culture.
2. The Handoff
Before the second Spark ends, the group leaves with Fire #3 already scheduled, a confirmed location, and a Fire Tender identified. Beginning with Fire #3, the fathers lead their own Fire using the Fatherhood Fires Flint (guidelines and suggestions).
3. Your Group Takes It Forward
Your group takes the lead, using the gathering plan established at the handoff. Stay with one host, rotate among backyards, or arrange another location together. No ongoing payment to DWW is required to keep meeting. Your group chooses its frequency; see the FAQ for suggestions.
Fatherhood Fires Values and Practices
Come as you are. There is room for everyday conversation, honest challenges, and things worth celebrating. Share at your own pace, listen with care, and make space for each other.
Supporting each other's agency while holding empathy for others as they navigate their challenges.
Share at your own pace. You decide what you feel ready to talk about.
Allowing space for folks.
While all participants are fathers, topics cover life in general and are meant to support the whole person.
Going beyond the average conversation and sharing what is difficult and what should be celebrated.
Make room for meaningful conversations alongside everyday moments and laughter.
Creating an intention for self and for the group, and checking in with self and others if this is happening.
Show up for yourself and other dads. You are needed and wanted here and outside of the Fire.
What the Fire Tender Does
Before Spark #2 ends, one father volunteers to be the Fire Tender. The Fire Tender is the main point of contact for the group to keep the group at the minimum fathers, make any requests such adding "a log" and to relay any desire for the group to take on more fathers. All fathers can refer back to the fatherfires guide to help support the fires in maintaining the intentional depth.
Start Your Fire
$199 per father. Matching, a 10-week gathering-location setup, and your first 3 facilitated Fires.
Join an Established Fire
~$125–$149 one time, subject to confirmation. If an existing Fire has an opening, DWW can place you into it directly. No new Spark required.
Join an Established Fire
~$125–$149 one time, subject to confirmation. If an existing Fire has an opening, DWW can place you into it directly. No new Spark required.
Join an Established Fire
~$125–$149 one time, subject to confirmation. If an existing Fire has an opening, DWW can place you into it directly. No new Spark required.
How Payment Works
Joining the Fire List is always free. You're only asked to pay once DWW has enough fathers ready to form a Fire in your area, so there's no cost or commitment just to get matched.
Join the Fire List
Free. Tell us about yourself and find your local Fire. You pay nothing until DWW has enough fathers to form a Fire near you.
Match and Spark
$199 per father, one-time payment. Includes matching, two facilitated Sparks, the Flint handbook and a handoff plan. Participants arrange their own space, such as a backyard. DWW does not provide, book or pay for venues. Optional extras: wood, snacks and smokeless firepit rental.
Leave the second Spark with your next gathering scheduled and a plan to keep going together.
Add a Log
$200 per Fire (to be split by the group). Bring a DWW facilitator back for one gathering.
Join an Established Fire
$99 one time, subject to confirmation. If an existing Fire has an opening, DWW can place you into it directly. No new Spark required.
Offerings at a Glance
| Offering | What You Get | Cost |
|---|---|---|
| Match and Spark | Matching, two facilitated Sparks, included Flint handbook and handoff. Participants arrange their own space. | $199 per father |
| Join an Established Fire | Placement into an existing Fire with an opening; no new Spark required | $99 per father |
| Gathering space | Participants coordinate their own space, such as a backyard. DWW does not provide, book or pay for venues. | Arranged by participants |
| Optional launch supplies | Facilitator brings wood and snacks to both Sparks. No delivery charge. | Wood $70 and snacks $50 for both Sparks |
| Smokeless firepit rental | Choose one rental period; annual rental has no automatic renewal | $50 for both Sparks or $175 for one year |
| Add a Log | DWW facilitator returns for one gathering | $200 total per Fire |
Beyond your group’s regular gatherings, DWW occasionally brings fathers from different Fires together for larger periodic gatherings, from retreats to golf, open to fathers already connected to a Fire. These aren't part of the core offering and aren't scheduled on a fixed calendar. Details are shared with active Fires as they're planned.